internet dating, eh?
So, I decided that I’m never going to meet someone if I don’t actually meet any new people. And I have a hard time meeting new people. So, I decided (ok, at the behest of the shrink, as well) to check out a few of the dating websites. I’m not really hoping for anything here, except maybe to meet some new people, and maybe make a few friends. And if I happen to really click with someone, that’d be nice, too. I’d been thinking about it for a while, but have been putting it off, mainly because I’m broke. Also, as my mother so succinctly and accurately put it, I am “not a joiner.”
Here are my initial reactions, after spending Saturday evening filling out questionnaires and talking about myself altogether more than I’m comfortable with. (And please note the lameness of me spending Saturday evening filling out dating site questionnaires instead of actually out having a life. Yeah… yeah.)
eHarmony – Yeah… that shit is expensive. But I like it. The questions go on forever, but that kinda makes sense to me. and I like the set-up of their profiles and whatnot–I like that they ask specific questions instead of just giving you a blank box and saying “talk about what makes you *you*”. But, quite frankly, I can’t afford to shell out $250 up front to be able to see pictures of my “matches”.
match.com – Eh. I like it less, but it’s ok so far. They let me do a bit more than eharmony for free, but not much. On the other hand, they’re ten bucks cheaper per month, and let you pay by the month. I might actually pay for this one. Maybe. They keep trying to guilt me into paying for the service by telling me it’ll show people that I’m “serious about meeting someone.” And I was raised Catholic–guilt trips don’t work on me.
chemistry.com – I haven’t formed much of an opinion of this one yet. It seems less popular, though. And I don’t think I like the setup as much as either of the previous two. They keep telling me I need to pay to do much of anything too, though. “Hey, lookit, Liz! This guy is interested in you! But you can’t see even what he looks like without shelling out twenty five bucks! Way to cockblock you, right?!” That gets annoying real quick. I might drop this one. I certainly can’t afford to pay for more than one site. I’m both cheap and broke. Also, I am not sure I get how they’re affiliated with match.com yet are still viable. It doesn’t make sense to me.
okcupid – Surprisingly, I like the free site the best so far. I like their set-up. It seems more laid back. It’s a little smart-assy, which I always appreciate. Plus, yanno, free. That’s always a bonus.
So, I am realizing that I need to do more than just join the sites and wait for the hotties to find me. This is the sticking point with me. I’ve always been, in the past, very reticent of putting myself out there. I readily admit to being both fairly oblivious and bad at meeting new people of any sort. I’m afraid of… lord, I don’t even know what I’m afraid of. Everything, really. So, it has dawned on me that I should and really need to be more proactive about this. Start winking at some of those hotties, or something.
That’s going to be the rub. Making myself do that. More proactive. Less scaredy-baby-wussy girl.
I’ll let you know how that works out. But probably not today. Give me a few to get used to the idea of accepting rejection from perfect strangers, first.
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